Ok, so what's OnlyPlans? This is a dating trend where people make plans to go on a date without following through with them. This isn't the same as getting stood up, though. When you get stood up, you arrive at the venue of the date, wait, and eventually accept your date isn't showing. In OnlyPlans, the plan becomes canceled well before either of you makes your way to the place.
An OnlyPlanner will usually say something unavoidable and important came up on the date and time for your hang. You might be disappointed, but if you like them, you'll likely reschedule. But then another emergency will spring up out of nowhere! Eventually, you'll get the hint. No, not every canceled date counts as OnlyPlanning. This method of letting someone go is a consistent pattern where plans are made and broken.
Why do people do this? To start with the hardest, maybe they're just not that into you. But hey, that saves you from investing more time into someone who doesn't value you! Sometimes, it might not be you at all. Your match might genuinely lead a busy life where they don't have enough time to invest in a real relationship, but they're still trying to take a chance at finding love. Other times, your match might not be looking for a committed relationship but for some fun conversations. Mental health and self-esteem issues might also play a part in OnlyPlanning.
